A doctor known by the name of Suess once wrote, “Adults are just obsolete children and the hell with them”. A statement that couldn’t be any truer as all of us blindly feel our way through life balancing on that teeter totter of juvenile behavior and mature wisdom. Of course, that spot on the spectrum varies depending upon the many factors of supposed “adulthood”. To a degree, I think we all wish we could maintain that Peter Pan mindset of never “growing up”.
Seuss speaks a lot about the people we encounter on the daily and the potential this world has- contingent of course upon the good and evil that we feed into. Every human being is different. Every human being that has ever lived or is currently living is different than the last; it’s just the outcome of each timeline that differs. Think about all the lonely people- where do they all come from?
Regardless of when and where we all are the products of our own actions. For every decision we make- taking the people around us into account will keep us on that path to righteousness- especially when it comes to infantile sobriety starting off in rehab. Now watching out for the people that will help us and the ones that hinder us is more crucial than ever. Nature versus nurture can really take hold here as the beginnings of recovery in a rehab facility are like a restart button for so many.
The War Vet
They say we’re supposed to be non-judgmental, but then there are certain people that we have to allow our inner intuition to speak for. Sometimes there are people that you just feel in your gut are a bad idea to be around. Looking out for these types of people in rehab is imperative for a successful immigration into early sobriety.
One of the more common people to avoid are the ones that love to tell war stories. These are the characters that will sit there and have a pissing contest with you about who got higher that one time. They are usually seemingly unhappy in their early recovery unless they are discussing their battle scars and the “crazy fun” they kept having that one time. They will continue to glorify the notion of getting high when everybody in rehab around them, including yourself, is just trying to get away from that idea.
Upon entering rehab, anybody and their mother will tell you that thinking positively will make things can get pretty heavy. There will be a lot of discomfort as a lot of change in brought on rapidly.
There will always be this type of person in rehab who just always seems to have that “sad clown” look glued to their face. They will think, act, and look as pessimistically as possible. Their mannerisms will embody the concept that life just cannot go on without the love affair they had with the narcotics and booze. These types of people are important to avoid because they will help plant a heavy subconscious that will make the beginning of your recovery much harder than you deserve.
The Cool Kid
Okay, so the reality is, rehab is not another chance at high school. Whether we are in there for 30 days, 90 days, or its long term – this is the ultimate time for ego to disappear. Therapy and recovery cannot begin without the rawness of an individual and the will to swallow pride and change their faulty ways. It all kind of boils down to the questioning of why are we in rehab in the first place? Don’t let a court order be the only thing you get out of it.
Don’t be manipulated by the person who wants to break the rules a little bit always. They will want to sneak out after curfew or bring contraband into the rehab. They are the ones who may be liked by most but aren’t doing what’s right for themselves. Sometimes this type of person is a little harder to distinguish but none the less is a person to avoid once their true colors begin to fly.
Susie Know It All
No, her name doesn’t have to be Susie, but we are all familiar with that type of person who you can’t teach a thing. They are close-minded, stubborn, and have been through all life has to offer. If their general response is to one-up you or there’s the rhetorical, “Yeah I know”- then you have your Susie right there.
This type of person to avoid in rehab might not wear it on their face, but this is a good thing for helping slow down the judgmental side of us coming out. This person will be distinguishable more so through their words and their response to life stimuli. You can’t teach an old dog new tricks and age is just a frame of mind when it comes to recovery in rehab.
Mr. Pants on Fire
This one kind of speaks for themselves- literally. You see, through our travels about the globe, we will come across people who tend to “bend the truth” here and there. In rehab, however, the “Liar Liar Pants on Fire” will announce themselves with total exaggeration of reality here, there, and everywhere.
Avoiding this person in rehab should be relatively easy due to the lack of anything said is hard to believe. Eventually, the constant guessing of their half truths will get old and you will be excited to move on in recovery without the additional trouble.
Don’t Avoid a Second Chance
If given the chance, people will, unfortunately, walk all over you in this life. It’s up to us to take care of ourselves- after all, we are all the products of our own destiny. It gets old quick- but there are alternatives to being chemically dependent. If you or a loved one has been struggling with getting a firm grasp on sobriety and need detoxification, please call 1-800-481-8457 or visit www.ohioarc.com. Our teams of specialists are waiting by to help figure out what options are best for sending your life is a comfortable direction that you can proudly stand behind.